When we limit our sights to only what is visible from where we presently stand, we limit ourselves to the possibilities of what we can achieve. We must believe – and see in our mind – that what we want is possible in order to invite the ideas that will help us manifest our dreams. This doesn’t mean we have to have all the answers, but we must possess the underlying belief that we can.
Saying, “I can’t,” automatically erects a dam that prevents the flow of creativity.
Saying, “you can’t,” to someone else can be equally detrimental. These choice words subconsciously seep into the psyche of their recipient, whether ourselves or another, and wreck havoc on our limitless potential to create and manifest.
What if the Wright Brothers had listened to all the naysayers who believed it impossible for man to launch into mid-air in a mechanical contraption? What if Rosa Parks had acquiesced when she was told she had to give up her bus seat to a white passenger?
Sure, there are feats that may seem impossible on the surface, especially if they are things that never have been done before. However, it is the inherent belief that we can achieve something new, different, never before done that bridges the gap between what we currently know and that of which we dream.
I recently had a coach tell me I would never create a six-figure business if I didn’t follow her prescriptive approach for getting there. I called BS and diplomatically took issue with her myopic viewpoint that hers is the singular means for achieving business success. After further exploration, it became abundantly clear to me that I couldn’t continue under the counsel of someone whose underlying belief was “you can’t” unless I did exactly as she said, and I concluded our work together.
People in positions of influence or leadership have a heightened responsibility to wield with care these two seemingly innocent words. Even when the intent is pure, such as a parent advising a child out of genuine concern, “you can’t” has the potential to be received with the blow of a hammer putting the kibosh on the courage to dream and desire big things. A more deliberate and selective choice of words could be equally effective without quashing another’s spirit.
If we’re on the receiving end of these words, we have an obligation to stand up for ourselves. Take exception in a kind but firm way that says we choose to disagree. Even if another can’t see how we’re going to achieve our dreams and desires, ask them to refrain from projecting their perceived limitations and instead hold the space for us to demonstrate otherwise.
Whatever your dreams, believe you can and surround yourself with people who believe you can.
No mountain is too big to conquer when we start from a place of believing we can.
